It’s a story about a therapist. And I think in terms of language, one of the interesting things to study in this film is the phrases that the therapist says to his patients to get them to keep talking.
Here are some examples:
Why do you think that is?
Say more about that.
And how does that make you feel?
This seems to cause you a great deal of distress.
That must be difficult for you.
You seem frustrated.
In the first part of the film the therapist acts like a typical therapist – well, how they usually act in movies and on TV anyway. I don’t know if that’s actually what they’re like.
He just says stuff to get them to keep talking. And maybe this helps solve the problem, or maybe it just makes them feel good because someone is listening to them, so they’ll keep coming back and it’s good business for the therapist.
But in the second part of the film, the therapist actually gives advice and says his opinion.
This movie made me think about how we listen to people when they tell us their problems.
When someone tells you about a problem that they’re having there are many things that you can do. You can give them advice, you can tell them what you would do in that situation. Or you can share a similar experience – something similar that’s happened to you and tell them about what you did and how it worked out. Or you can not offer any advice and just listen and show empathy and get them to keep talking by saying things like: Mmm, that must be difficult.
What do you usually do when someone tells you about their problems?
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And that was Stick News for Tuesday the 2nd of March. Kia ora.
Acute is an adjective which means critical or serious.
The therapist in today’s movie is listening to a guy who’s afraid of the dark and he asks:
Was your fear of the dark any less acute this time?
Less acute means less serious, so it means: Were you less scared this time?
But it’s quite a formal way of asking it. And the patient answers very informally: I damn near crapped my pants, man.
conversations with sarah
It seems like a waste of money.
Beth Have you ever been to a therapist?
Sarah No, have you? いいえ、あなたは？
Beth No. It seems like a waste of money. ありません。カネの無駄のように思えるからです。
Sarah I don’t know. If you have the money, I think it could be a good idea. そうかな。もし金持ちだったら面白いアイデアかも。
Beth But, why don’t people just talk to their friends? しかし、なぜ友だちに話さないんだろう？
Sarah I think it’s different from talking to your friends though. 友だちと話すのとは違うと思うけどね。
Beth How can it be better to talk to a stranger? 他人に話して何が良いんだろう？
Sarah Well if you talking to a friend, you can’t really have a long one-sided conversation, you have to respect the listener. But if you’re paying a therapist you could just go for it. そうですね、友だちと話すときは聞き手をリスペクトしなければならないので一方通行の会話はムリです。しかしセラピストにお金を払ったなら遠慮なくしゃべられます。
Our Time Is Up - Transcript (First part only)
Morning Dr. Stern. I added some new plants. Yep.
Dr. Stern. Dr. Stern, it’s Dr. Gardenswartz. We met at the conference last week. I'm newly licensed and I was wondering if you might give me some insights into how you handle your own patient-doctor relationships. Yes, well, I’m very busy. Oh, of course, I just thought I could draw upon your expertise. All in due time, hm? Good day.
Am I dating often? Yeah. Lately I’ve been out with a different girl every night of the week. But the odd thing is, I can’t seem to form a connection with any of them. You feel disconnected from them? Exactly. Why do you think that is?
Because look at me. I’m a fat, disgusting pig. I’m just glad I found a safe, effective weight loss technique. You mean vomiting? Yes. Say more about that.
All right. Um, ordinarily, I’d be attracted to such a beautiful woman, but in that fuchsia dress. Ugh, no thank you. Would you be attracted to her if she wore a different colour? Ah, depends on the colour. Depends on the colour. Interesting. Why do you think that is?
Isn’t it obvious? Soap removes the bacteria from other things. But what removes the bacteria from the soap? I’ll tell you. Nothing. And that’s why you wash the soap? And the soap that washes the soap. But there’s still nothing to wash that soap, is there? No, I don’t think so. And how does that make you feel?
Terrible, I can’t even look at them. They’re awful. Just freaky and awful. So you’re frightening by the turtles? Ah. This seems to cause you a great deal of distress.
No, not really. I mean, she’s a sweet and gentle person, who occasionally throws china at my head. She does this several times a week. Exactly, you see it’s very little. You say little.
Little or big, round or perky, panty lines or thong, no matter the butt, I gotta grab it. So, it’s just getting arrested that you don’t like? There’s the rub. That must be difficult for you.
You’re damn right it’s difficult for me. So last night I’m about to make love to this fine woman, and then goes and blows out the damn candle. I’m telling you doc, it was pitch black. Was your fear of the dark any less acute this time? I damn near crapped my pants man. Then I go running for the light that was coming from underneath the door and busted my head open on the stereo. You seem frustrated. Look, doc, this has been a lot of sessions. Is this therapy thing going to work? All in due time. You been saying that for the last two years.
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サラのメモ： Have you ever been to a therapist? Were they like the guy in this movie?